2/22/01
Question 71
Dear Preschool Teacher,
My female preschooler is being picked
on by a male classmate who is nearly a year older. The teacher has
said nothing to me but my child is scared to go back and has missed a
few days. How can I fix this as fast as possible?
Boys will be Boys?
Dear Boys Will Be Boys?,
No boy or girl has the right to bully another
child. Teach your child to be more assertive if possible.
Also make the teacher aware of what has happened. Some children
are sneaky about picking on weaker children. It may be that he likes
her and doesn't know how to show it. It would be a good
time for the teacher to do a lesson on how to be friends and how to
treat others. Teach her to express her feelings verbally.
Teach her to tell him to keep his hands to himself. She can say
it loudly too! She will have to stand up for herself in the
coming years so she needs to learn now how to handle herself.
Older children are meaner than preschoolers! And little bullies
can become big bullies! I hope she can say how she feels.
Role
play with her at home until she feels more comfortable with the
situation.
Good luck.
Jackie
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear Boys Will Be Boys?,
As a parent I would like to know my child is
being picked on. Talk with the teacher. Sometimes the teacher
does not know what is happening. This has happened to me on
several occasions. The child sometime will not tell the teacher.
We can't help, if we don't know. Also, the teacher may have
spoken
to the child and thought it was taken care of.
As a teacher I would want to know.
Several boys were "in love with a girl and they would pick on her
when the teacher or the assistant was not looking. Sometimes the boys
will tell the girl not to say some to the teacher. So she tells
her parents.
When the parent spoke to me I did not know about it. The girl
said the boys scared her. It took several days before the problem was
solved.
Doris
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear Boys Will Be Boys?,
Please talk to the teacher as she may not be
aware of the problem, or perhaps she felt the problem was corrected.
In any case, she needs to know. Children learn very quickly the
"power" of picking on someone younger, but with intervention
this should be able to be corrected. Talk to your child also
about them using their words to tell the other child and also to tell
the teacher as needed. All children should feel safe and happy
at school.
Kris
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
