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Question 89
Dear Preschool
Teacher,
I have been working at playgroup for 10 months
now and my 4 year old daughter comes with me. Generally she is bright
and happy but when I am at playgroup with her she tends to be rude to
the other children and cry alot to get my attention. How should I be
approaching this situation?
Worried Mother & Teacher
Dear Worried Mother & Teacher,
This is so common for anyone that is
working with children and their child is there too. The best thing for
you to do is when your with her and there is no other children around,
is to give her your full attention. Sit down and talk to her. Reassure
her that you are there for her. Also explain that this is your job.
She is young, but young children understand allot more than we think.
Just tell her you will always be her mother and that no other child
could take her place.
Roni
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear
Worried Mother & Teacher,
From
my experience, children usually act up more when their own parent is
the teacher. It doesn't stop, until they are 13 or older...
Either be prepared for difficulties, talk
about it to your child each time you go to class or try to arrange for
her to go to a different group.
You might want to try offering a reward for
extra good behavior. As my kids got older (they were always in my Sunday
School class also), I involved them a little bit in preparing my
lessons. That helps sometimes.
Good luck!
Heide
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Mother & Teacher,
I feel for you. Sometimes it is
better if somehow your own child is in a different group from you, as
it may be hard for her to "share" you. Or try to give
her special jobs to help you get ready?
Good luck.
Kris
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear
Worried Mother & Teacher,
You just have to keep reassuring her that
the other children will not replace you. I had my grandson with me.
There will be days she'll try your patience and then there will be
days she'll be an average. As soon as she has her on friends she'll do
better.
Some children just need to be in another class.
Doris
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear
Worried Mother & Teacher,
Your daughter is too young to separate
the roles you are playing at school. To her, you are mommy.
She doesn't like sharing you. Perhaps you can explain the
situation to her by reassuring her that you always leave with
her and that she is your child. You are there to help the other
children learn, but you are not their mommy. Give her an
important job to do for you that no other child gets to do.
Maybe carry a certain book or toy for you. If there were another
room for her I would suggest that time away to begin to separate a
little. It is extremely hard to work with your own children
because they don't want to share you. They don't yet understand
that you can help others without liking her less.
Jackie
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
