4/5/01
Question 90
Dear Preschool Teacher,
My
mother, (my daughters grandmother) insists in rushing my daughter to
learn on stuff that she calls homework. My daughter is in pre-k and my
mother gives her HOMEWORK for a 1st grader. I know her intentions are
well but I told her that she is going to fast. I see my daughters frustration
trying to learn something she doesn't know. Please help me
explain to my
mother that this is not good.
Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
Tell your mom, that your daughter is
already in school for part of the day. She also needs some time to be
a kid and learn non-academic things such as social interaction,
cooking, role-playing, etc. Those are all things she learns without
knowing that she is learning. If her teacher at school feels the need
for homework, she will send some home. Your mom
does not need to think some up. Later in life your daughter will have
enough homework, let her breathe while she can!
Good luck!
Heide
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
Try to explain to Grandma that young
children love to have "A LITTLE BIT" of homework so that
they can be like their older friends, but it should be something very
simple and something that she has already covered in detail in school.
Then the homework will reinforce what the pre-k teachers has already
covered. If that doesn't work, you could maybe enlist your
child's pre-k teacher. Sometimes if a non-family members
explains something like that they take the suggestions better.
Good Luck.
Lynn
"Ask The Preschool
Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
Try to explain to your mother that a frustrated child will learn to hate school and learning. Learning should be a fun experience at this age. If they become frustrated, they will hate learning and this will become a bad situation for the rest of her time in school.
Emphasize the importance that your daughter should not be frustrated in her learning experience. Also, this is your daughter! If you see something that someone is doing that your don't approve of, it's your job to put a stop to it!
Peg
"Ask The Preschool
Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
I was in your same shoes a couple of
years ago. See my oldest daughter is above average. Her Grand-dad
loves to teach her extremely difficult stuff. But my youngest daughter
is not like her. My dad didn't understand or was hidden by the truth.
My youngest daughter was in tears every time my dad started
quizzing her. I finally just had to sit down and tell him he was
trying to push her to fast and hard. I told him gently. It sounds like
you need to do the same thing. Just sit down and explain. Be truthful.
She love you for it in the long run.
Roni
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
Talk with your preschool teacher and
have her write a letter to you and Grandma about child development.
She will learn when she is ready and that things will be tough enough
in K and let her be a young child.
Doris
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
Explain to your mother that at your
daughters age she needs to learn at her own pace. If she
continues to push her at this young age she will get so tired of
"homework" Besides homework will come soon enough, she
needs to be a little girl. If she is pushed into doing work that
is beyond her level,
when she gets to that level of study she will be bored and be less
progressive. The main thing that your little girl needs to learn
at this age is socialization skills and how to be creative on her own.
Steph
"Ask The Preschool
Teacher Staff"
Dear Worried Daddy, Pushy Grandmother,
This is serious. It could affect
how your daughter views learning for the rest of her life!
Explain to Grandma that children need love and limits, not lessons.
She could talk to her about age appropriate material. Buy a good
resource book on pushing children too fast and ask your mother to read
it. Tell her you need her opinion of it. If she doesn't
get the hint, be blunt. Your daughter will feel like a failure
because she can't please Grandma. It will cause many emotional
scars down the road with her self-esteem. We all need to feel
successful when we are learning new things.
Tell Grandma to look for age recommendations
on books she purchases and then look through it. Pre-K children
should be learning colors, shapes, how to write their name, how to
dress themselves, how to count from 1-20. Maybe the alphabet if she's
ready. Stay away from workbooks. Buy crayons
and plain paper. Play with play dough, cut with scissors, and
paint with watercolors. These will help strengthen her small
muscles. Take walks and talk. Help her notice what is
around her. This will sharpen her observation skills. You
can keep her busy and learning without "homework".
Don't be afraid to stand up for your
child. Her future is in your hands!
Jackie
"Ask The Preschool Teacher Staff"